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Confessions of a New Dad: I Loved My Kid, But I Missed My Freedom

Mourning the life I left behind... while loving the new one.

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Geoffrey Griffin
March 24, 2025

No one warned me that becoming a dad meant mourning the life I left behind… even while loving the new one.

In this honest reflection, I open up about the early years of fatherhood—where love, exhaustion, and identity loss all collided. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or quietly guilty for missing your freedom while still loving your child more than anything… you’re not alone. This one’s for the new dads in the thick of it.

Is pushing kids to get good grades the fastest way to raise successful children?

Surprisingly, the answer is NO.

Focusing solely on academics makes up just a small part of what truly nurtures a child's self-belief and independence.

So what's the real game changer in raising unstoppable kids?

It’s all about getting them to learn critical life skills.

Did you know skills like problem-solving, creativity, financial literacy and resilience make the difference between those who succeed and those who struggle later in life?

This is way more impactful than just pushing for good grades.

Unfortunately, many parents waste hundreds of dollars every month on tutors and academic programs focusing only on rote learning.

While adding tremendous amounts of stress to young kids.

Smart parents are discovering this simple solution to spark their child's fire for self-driven achievement, raising confident leaders fast.

Focused Wonder

The purpose of Focused Wonder is to foster connection and open communication with your kids and spouse. This section offers simple, focused questions designed to spark meaningful dialogue—whether at the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime. Use these questions to build trust, curiosity, and laughter in your relationships.

Is there anything you feel like I don’t fully understand about you?

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