Focused Purpose

What if being a “good dad” is quietly pushing your kids away?

You set the rules. You stay calm. You try to lead by example.

But here’s the twist: the more perfect you try to be, the less they trust you.

In this article, I unpack why chasing flawless fatherhood backfires—and how being real, honest, and even a little messy is the key to deep connection.

Focused Partners

Why I Started Taking My Health Seriously at 5:17 a.m.
(And the 3-minute routine that changed everything)

I used to hit snooze three times. Not because I was lazy—but because I was foggy. Even when I got a full night’s sleep, I’d drag through the morning like someone had replaced my blood with molasses.

My brain? Shot. My joints? Tight. My motivation? MIA.

At 5:17 a.m. one Wednesday, I sat on the edge of the bed, rubbed my face, and muttered the same five-word prayer I’d said every morning for the last year: “Just get through the day.”

That’s when it hit me.
I wasn’t just tired. I was underperforming my entire life.

At work, at home, in the gym—everything felt like it took 30% more effort than it should.

So I did something uncomfortable.
I started tracking everything: sleep, recovery, bloodwork, inflammation markers, focus levels. (Yes, I went full nerd.)

And what I discovered?
I didn’t need more willpower.
I needed better fuel.

Enter a small shift: 3 science-backed essentials I now take every morning from a company called Momentous. It’s not flashy. It’s not trendy. But it’s clinical-grade, clean, and actually built for performance—not hype.

In the first two weeks, I noticed:

• No more 2 p.m. crash.

• Morning lifts felt smoother.

• Mental clarity like someone Windexed my brain.

And yeah, I still get tired. But now it’s earned—not chronic.

If you’ve been “getting through the day” on grit and caffeine, this might be the signal to try something built for long-term performance, not short-term stimulation.

Here’s what I take now—and why I trust Momentous

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Focused Action

Every month, The Focused Fool brings you a series of Focused Actions—practical, bite-sized steps designed to help you grow as a father, husband, and man. Each theme is broken down into 12 structured actions (3 per week for 4 weeks) that build on each other, helping you grow with clarity and purpose—one small win at a time.

These aren’t lofty goals or guilt trips. They’re simple, achievable habits designed to make you more consistent, more grounded, and more present.

This month’s theme: Self Leadership

Taking ownership of your own growth and modeling it for your family.

Self-leadership isn’t about waiting to be told what to do—it’s about choosing your direction, setting your own bar, and showing your family what growth looks like in real time.

This month, we’ll help you create a personal growth system you can return to again and again.

✅ Week 1 – Ownership: Define the Path

Name the Gap
Action: Identify one area of your life where you know you’ve been coasting or avoiding.
Prompt: What would taking full ownership in this area actually look like?

Focused Wonder

Focused questions designed to spark meaningful dialogue—whether at the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime. Use these questions to build trust, curiosity, and laughter in your relationships.

What do you think I was like when I was your age?

Focused Motion

Curated videos to help make you think, to motivate, or to just laugh.

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