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Why Fairness Is Killing Your Marriage (And What Actually Works)
How to stop keeping score and start showing up like a real teammate.
Geoffrey Griffin
August 06, 2025
Focused Content
Hey Brother,
Today in The Focused Fool…
Focused Purpose
Why fairness isn’t the goal—and how dropping the mental scoreboard can transform your marriage into a real team effort.
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Focused Action
This month’s theme: Self Leadership
We’re laying the foundation for the man you’re becoming—one small, repeatable action at a time.
Focused Wonder
Spark connection with this question tonight:
"If school let you create one class of your own, what would it be and what would you learn?"
Focused Motion
Life is full of irritations, enjoy it!
Your story is already being written. Time to pick up the pen.
Focused Purpose
You're trying to be fair. You're splitting the load. You're doing the dishes, packing the lunches, tagging in at bedtime.
So why does it still feel like you're on opposing teams?
Today’s article tackles the quiet resentment that creeps in when we treat our marriage like a business partnership. I’ll share my own confession as a reformed scorekeeper, the mistake that nearly derailed our teamwork, and what finally helped us stop keeping track—and start backing each other up for real.
Fair doesn't always mean functional. Here's what works better.
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Focused Action
Every month, The Focused Fool brings you a series of Focused Actions—practical, bite-sized steps designed to help you grow as a father, husband, and man. Each theme is broken down into 12 structured actions (3 per week for 4 weeks) that build on each other, helping you grow with clarity and purpose—one small win at a time.
These aren’t lofty goals or guilt trips. They’re simple, achievable habits designed to make you more consistent, more grounded, and more present.
This month’s theme: Self Leadership
Taking ownership of your own growth and modeling it for your family.
Self-leadership isn’t about waiting to be told what to do—it’s about choosing your direction, setting your own bar, and showing your family what growth looks like in real time.
This month, we’ll help you create a personal growth system you can return to again and again.
✅ Week 1 – Ownership: Define the Path
Identify the Drift
Action: Track 3 moments this week where your actions didn’t align with who you want to be.
Prompt: What do those moments have in common?
Focused Wonder
Focused questions designed to spark meaningful dialogue—whether at the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime. Use these questions to build trust, curiosity, and laughter in your relationships.
If school let you create one class of your own, what would it be and what would you learn?
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