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Focused Insights

Curated recommendations to challenge your thinking, inspire action, or simply make you pause and reflect.

• Lost Boys - State of the Nation Report - A deep dive into the challenges facing boys and young men in the UK, including alarming disparities in education, employment, mental health, and family structure. This report calls for urgent action to address these overlooked issues.

• Diary of a CEO Podcast - Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

• Play The Games While You Can – Daily Dad
  A powerful reminder to seize the fleeting moments of childhood. The games, the laughter, and the joy of being present—it's all temporary. Make the most of it while you can.

Focused Purpose

Ever feel like raising boys today is like trying to herd cats—except the cats are blindfolded, wearing roller skates, and somehow on fire? You’re not alone. I’ve been fumbling through fatherhood too, especially after learning boys are three times more likely than girls to die by suicide and struggling academically at alarming rates. Yikes

Want the full breakdown? Read the full article here.

Through my own bumbling attempts at fatherhood, here's what I think our boys might be missing:

1. Genuine Mentorship (Where Did All the Old Wise Men Go?)

My dad taught me in his woodshop; today's boys get life advice from TikTok. We’ve scheduled our kids to death, leaving zero time for those “pass me that wrench” moments where wisdom sneaks in.
➡️ Something I’m trying: Deliberately doing nothing with my kids sometimes. No phones, no plans—just existing together and seeing what happens.

2. The Purpose Puzzle

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” might be the wrong question. Maybe we should ask, “Who do you want to become?” I’ve checked all society’s success boxes and still sometimes feel like I’m missing something important.
➡️ My experiment: Family dinners where we talk about stories of service, generosity, or selflessness instead of my repeated requests to put dirty socks IN the hamper.

3. Emotional Openness (Yes, Boys Really Do Cry)

I’m still unlearning the “rub some dirt on it” approach to feelings, and honestly, talking about emotions sometimes feels as comfortable as wearing someone else’s underwear. But I’m trying.
➡️ Worth attempting: Sharing our highs and lows at dinner, even when my “low” involves screaming internally at work meetings.

4. The Physical Disconnection

Our great-grandfathers built barns; we build spreadsheets. The satisfaction of creating something with your hands beats any digital achievement (though I'll never admit how many colorful words were uttered during our backyard playset construction).
➡️ Consider this: Building something—anything—together, even if it’s marginally functional and questionably attractive.

5. Rites of Passage (We Need More Than a Diploma)

When exactly did I become a man? Was it when I could finally reach the top cabinet without a stool? Our boys drift into adulthood with no clear markers except maybe “can legally buy lottery tickets now.”
➡️ My half-baked plan: Creating meaningful challenges for my boys that don’t involve venomous Amazonian ants (Google it—yikes!).

Read the full article on our website for a deeper dive into these critical issues and more practical solutions.

What do you think our boys are missing? Got any mentorship rituals or traditions that work for you? Hit reply—I’m all ears.

Still learning while leading,
The Focused Fool

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Focused Wonder

Focused questions designed to spark meaningful dialogue—whether at the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime. Use these questions to build trust, curiosity, and laughter in your relationships.

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Focused Motion

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